Updated: Nov 13
The holiday season in the United States is a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. For international students studying in Atlanta, Georgia, it's an opportunity to immerse yourself in American culture and experience the warmth of local customs. One of the best ways to do this is by accepting an invitation to a holiday meal at an American home. However, you might encounter some cultural differences that can be both exciting and a bit confusing. This guide will help you navigate through American holiday traditions with grace and ease.
1. RSVP Promptly:
When you receive an invitation to a holiday meal, it's important to respond promptly. The host needs to know how many people will be attending to prepare the right amount of food. A simple "yes" or "no" will do, and if you're unsure about dietary restrictions or preferences, don't hesitate to let your host know.
Understand that if you accept the invitation, the host considers this a commitment from you to attend and is planning for you to be there (and will be buying food for a certain number of guests). It is impolite to not show up after you have agreed to do so unless there is a very good reason such as getting sick and you should communicate that as soon as possible to your host.
2. Gift Giving
Bringing a small gift as a token of appreciation is a lovely gesture when you're invited to someone's home. While it's not obligatory, it's a nice way to express your gratitude. Consider bringing a bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates, or a small gift from your home country to share a piece of your culture.
3. Arrive on Time:
Punctuality is highly valued in American culture. Arriving a little early or on time shows respect for your host's effort and time. If you're running late, a polite phone call or message to let them know is greatly appreciated.
4. Dress Code:
When in doubt about what to wear, it's usually best to dress slightly more formal than you would for a regular day. Check with your host if there's a specific dress code for the occasion. Americans often dress up a bit for holiday gatherings.
5. Offer to Help:
Once you arrive, offer to help with any preparations or ask in advance if you can bring a dish to share. It's a way of showing your appreciation and being an active participant in the event. Many Americans appreciate the assistance, even if it's just setting the table or helping in the kitchen.
6. Communicate with Your Host:
Open communication is key. If you have dietary restrictions or allergies, let your host know well in advance so they can accommodate your needs. Don't hesitate to ask questions about the customs or what to expect during the event. Most hosts will be more than happy to explain the traditions.
7. Table Etiquette:
When seated at the dining table, wait until everyone is served before you start eating (unless indicated otherwise by the host such as at a buffet). Use utensils to eat, unless the meal is explicitly hands-on (like a barbecue). Engage in conversation, but avoid sensitive topics like politics or religion. Remember to thank your host for the meal when you're finished.
8. Bring Conversation Topics:
Prepare a few conversation topics in advance, especially if you're nervous about small talk. You can ask about holiday traditions, family stories, or share your own experiences and culture. Americans generally appreciate genuine interest in their customs.
9. Don't be nervous.
Your culture, language, religion, national origin, or background may be different from that of the host. But remember that the host has invited you because the host wants to spend time with you and learn from you. You can expect to be warmly welcomed.
While some American holidays are religious in origin (like Christmas and Easter), holidays are celebrated as both secular and religious. All faiths and non-faiths are welcome to join all American holidays.
10. Respect Dietary Choices:
Be open to trying the food that's served, even if it's unfamiliar. If there's something you can't eat, politely decline without making a fuss. Your host will understand.
11. Express Gratitude:
After the meal, don't forget to express your gratitude to your host for their hospitality. A simple "Thank you for having me" or a handwritten note sent later is a thoughtful touch.
Participating in an American holiday meal can be a heartwarming experience, allowing you to forge deeper connections and create lasting memories. Embrace these customs with an open heart, and you'll not only enjoy the delicious food but also gain a deeper understanding of American culture and the spirit of the holiday season.
Most of all - Have Fun. Holidays are a time of joy and cheer and this is a guide to help you feel more at ease. Do not fret if you are not sure what to do or say, simply showing up, being yourself and joining in is what we all enjoy the most.
As you engage with your local hosts and share your own traditions, you're contributing to a more connected and harmonious world, where friendships are built across borders and cultures.
Happy holidays, and enjoy your American holiday feasts!